tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post9065490413512182889..comments2023-11-03T04:19:04.554-06:00Comments on Refracted Light: Hi!Dedeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10155503562900208564noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-46573379826654573932008-11-25T13:01:00.000-07:002008-11-25T13:01:00.000-07:00That was so incredibly well put, hun! We get so b...That was so incredibly well put, hun! We get so backwards with our thinking, don't we?Kimberly Vanderhorsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01653757517652257445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-79972375327453052322008-11-23T16:30:00.000-07:002008-11-23T16:30:00.000-07:00I am glad you and your family are feeling better. ...I am glad you and your family are feeling better. Sorry, though, that the job hunt is still not going well. I can relate to that.<BR/><BR/>As far as tsk-tsking goes, I need to stop contributing to the problem. Thanks for being so honest and forth coming in this post. I know I can do better about not gossiping!<BR/><BR/>As always, thanks for your enlightening words!An Ordinary Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497066145696617241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-70110710552504235712008-11-22T02:14:00.000-07:002008-11-22T02:14:00.000-07:00I love this post. So thought provoking. I have ne...I love this post. So thought provoking. I have never understood why parents are crucified when children misuse their free agency. The great men in the Bibble starting from Adam onward had wayward children. It didn't mean they were bad parents. It just means we are free to choose for ourselves and we may not always follow our parents and the Lord. The same freedom we exercise when we judge others when we know we should not. I admire you for the self-reflection and the desire to rise above the throng of "judgers". Thanks for the good example.<BR/><BR/>I also dropped by to let you know I will be on blog-cation and will not be able to visit and comment for awhile. I will miss your posts but I will be back. Have a great Thanksgiving holiday!Little GrumpyAngelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14065581455480762162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-26984912694500520402008-11-20T22:07:00.000-07:002008-11-20T22:07:00.000-07:00This was thought-provoking. It reminded me that ev...This was thought-provoking. It reminded me that even though I've been at the ugly end of this, I've still had to catch myself to keep from judging others. It's human nature, probably, but that's what fighting not to fall in with the "natural man" is all about.Melanie Jacobsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02489615939726209573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-42761363394499793382008-11-20T20:23:00.000-07:002008-11-20T20:23:00.000-07:00I grew up around a lot of quick to judge people. ...I grew up around a lot of quick to judge people. It never sat right with me. I'm thankful for that. Judgment is something I try really hard to steer clear of. sure, I fail at times, it's a natural human thing to do after all :)<BR/><BR/>But I TRY really hard to keep in mind that we're all the same...struggling and failing, striving and starting over. <BR/><BR/>Good post :)Heather of the EOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14607422301391841377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-43210178898835850972008-11-20T18:38:00.000-07:002008-11-20T18:38:00.000-07:00I've had my share of tsk-tsking at my expense, bei...I've had my share of tsk-tsking at my expense, being a mother who at one point was lifeguarding full time, coaching swim club, and teaching aerobics. I also have done my fair share of tsk-tsking. It is so easy to get caught in that trap. I think you're absolutely right, we don't reach out, we don't try to find the reason behind the why, we're too quick to judge, and not quick enough to extend a hand.<BR/>Thank you for reminding me of this. I'm going to leave you with an Audrey Hepburn quote (because I absolutely adore her)<BR/>"God gave us two hands, one to help ourselves, the other to help others."Aquaspcehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02245372987722624186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-59200445892208804412008-11-20T11:55:00.000-07:002008-11-20T11:55:00.000-07:00First of all, glad you are back and glad you are f...First of all, glad you are back and glad you are feeling better! Yay! This post is such a good reminder of why we mustn't judge people. As the mother of a child whose disabilities often led to some pretty spectacular public misbehavior, I have been on the sharp end of that stick many times. My belief is that most moms truly are trying to do their very best. We all make mistakes. Sadly, some of the consequences of our mistakes are way out of proportion to the actual mistake. (little mistake, way big bad consequences). This is partly because of the agency of the child and partly just life. We can never know what led to what--though it is natural to try to avoid making the same mistakes in our lives, and useful, too, the idea that those girls are the way they are because of homeschool is, I'm sorry to say in case it offends, incredibly ridiculous. I am amazed and a bit appalled that such an idea even got started. Most kids I know who are homeschooled are better educated, brighter and generally better behaved then their counterparts (this might be partly because the majority of kids homeschooled in my area are deeply religious--not Mormon--other religions) I think in areas where the culture is very homogenized, whenever anyone does anything differently, it can be very threatening. It becomes the thing at which to point the finger. Homeschool is not the problem, here. Maybe a mom and dad who are so busy perfecting their public image has more to do with it (but that would be too judgemental to say about anyone I actually know--but I don't. So I am).Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12660156433881882098noreply@blogger.com