tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post7654509130501999460..comments2023-11-03T04:19:04.554-06:00Comments on Refracted Light: Judge Not 3--A--Personal ServiceDedeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10155503562900208564noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-1973762576214936822009-06-19T22:46:29.157-06:002009-06-19T22:46:29.157-06:00You are so sweet! I love you too! :)
I apologize ...You are so sweet! I love you too! :)<br />I apologize for taking so long to respond. Life has been...life.<br />As I typed my first comment, I didn't think you'd disagree with it, I was just looking at it differently. You so eloquently brought all the different thoughts together here. I appreciate conversations where people share different nuances that strike them. We were each created uniquely and have such different perspectives, passions, and experiences to share! <br />I hope you get to write that book!EEEEMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08152965556780402197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-88237762648199273032009-05-30T11:32:17.105-06:002009-05-30T11:32:17.105-06:00While reading this I just kept nodding my head. I...While reading this I just kept nodding my head. It is so obvious now that you three put it all into words that are so easily understood. It is like one spirit/soul speaking to another. I completely agree with you. We are not supposed to judge others (now we are getting into semantics here), but we are supposed to lift others and lift ourselves. I suppose it all comes down to the pure intentions of our heart and only the Savior can really tell where we are at. (And talking about lifting reminds me of the June HT Message and the "Man Down" most recent General Conference talk by Elder Eyring and then the talk called "Lift Where You Stand" by President Uchtdorf.)<br /><br />Beautiful, insightful and thought provoking post!An Ordinary Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497066145696617241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-71847900999237637962009-05-28T00:40:23.745-06:002009-05-28T00:40:23.745-06:00This is a beautiful and thoughtful (as well as tho...This is a beautiful and thoughtful (as well as thought-provoking) post. I love the continuation of the dialogue. And I have to agree because recently so many people who have been in my situation, suffering over another family member, have given me a great deal of encouragement and hope. I wqas talking to a friend the other day about a tragic experience, and she said the best thing that has come out of it for her is the compassion. Yes, compassion is huge. It makes almost any trial worth it, in retrospect.charrettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16351177033783487168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-36885080912008590132009-05-22T21:54:44.830-06:002009-05-22T21:54:44.830-06:00How have I missed this post for two whole days? So...How have I missed this post for two whole days? Sorry! Hmmmmm, this is creating such a tumble of thought in me, I can't quite put it into words. I don't totally agree with Angel. I do agree with a lot of it--I just think that if the beam is gone, the lesson no longer applies. Meanwhile, the key is living close enough to the spirit to know when we are meant to say and do certain things that will help a person as the Lord would have us do--I have been privileged to be used in this way on occassion and those times have always been the biggest blessings of my life--it makes the pain of going through what I have gone through to have that particular beam removed utterly worth it 100 times over. But, either the beam is there or it's not. Maybe there is something I'm missing, here . .Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12660156433881882098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-83056216669529035212009-05-21T21:07:28.987-06:002009-05-21T21:07:28.987-06:00This is a thoughtful and considerate post, and I d...This is a thoughtful and considerate post, and I do like the idea of our own suffering having some incidental purpose in helping others. <br /><br />I have a few friends that have lived through things I wouldn't wish on enemies. I still am shocked by the strength of the human spirit.Kazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04411131948607000725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-87934999637312940262009-05-21T08:34:22.221-06:002009-05-21T08:34:22.221-06:00not really on the topic of judging, but on the top...not really on the topic of judging, but on the topic of going through experiences so you can be better prepared later, to help and bless someone's life...When I was in the thick of a deep depression related to our infertility I remember crying to my bishop one day and asking, "But why?!" The next time we talked he shared with me that he felt that part of the reason for my suffering was so that I would "pave the way", so to speak, for others that would travel a similar path someday. I would be able to help someone just because I could understand. And, the person (stranger) who helped me the most during my journey, was someone who had gone through this before me. I only met with her for 30 minutes, but she changed everything for me in that short time. <br /><br />Love you, Eowyn.Lainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12738889762325384560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-66963325117662123912009-05-20T17:14:31.932-06:002009-05-20T17:14:31.932-06:00This is another beautiful post, Eowyn. I loved Ang...This is another beautiful post, Eowyn. I loved Angel & Heather's responses (and you can see so much of their beautiful selves in them) because I believe that same thing. Sometimes, only someone who has been through that refining fire can help another person over the coals. I kind of liken it to a swamp. A person who has been there, who knows the pitfalls and the safe zones, they can help lead someone else through. That isn't to say that we rejoice in doing wrong (it's a painful process and you don't have to have cancer to know it's bad for you) but it does mean that we have that clarity to help someone else avoid our pitfalls.<br /><br />Sorry for the long comment. This really is a beautiful post. Thank you to everyone who contributed to it. Thank you, Eowyn, for helping me think more. *Hugs*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6001874016534429126.post-32741369568108622102009-05-19T14:18:00.000-06:002009-05-19T14:18:00.000-06:00I think there are so many of life's experiences th...I think there are so many of life's experiences that don't make sense unless you think of them in these terms - that your suffering/growth can helps others. Empathy, insight, discernment...whatever you want to call it. Judging isn't the right word in this case, is it? But it is about seeing clearly, something we can't seem to do unless we truly understand.<br /><br />I absolutely loved this post. You and Angel and Heather all put it so well.Kimberly Vanderhorsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01653757517652257445noreply@blogger.com